Upanishads and Relationship

The Atma is ever pure, ever free from attachment, for there is no second to get attached to.

The Mundakopanishad (III-i) mantra says: Two birds, ever together, with significant and subtle wings, are perched on a tree. (The tree is the body and the twin birds are Jivatma and Paramatma). One bird is engaged in tasting the fruits, (The Jivatma experiences joy and grief from the deeds it engages itself in). The other just watches. (The Paramatma is subtler than the subtlest and is just a Witness). (Baba)

Upanishad Vahini

What is the relationship between those two birds, the Paramatma and the Jivatma, the experiencer and the experience?

If we are established in the witness, there is a constant getting aware of ‘I am that’.

The witness is the experiencer and in a relationship to the experience. Between the witnessing and the witnessed object is a constant self-awareness present, it is pure consciousness, it is a constant flow of going on in the self. 

 

The Yoga you should practice is: watch the agitation in the mind as a witness, free yourself from resolutions and even decisions, for and against.

Have your mind and its journeys always under control. Yoga is the parallel progress of the Jivatma, every step in tune with the Paramatma. The goal is the merger of both: then, all grief ends. He who steadily takes up yoga with faith and who is prodded on by unswerving renunciation (non-attachment) can certainly win victory.

You said that you are the watchman. Who is the watcher?

It is not only getting aware of what we are not, but in the light of what we are not, we get aware of whom we are.
The answer is 'I am that'.
Getting aware of what we are not means to awake in consciousness and the awareness of ‘I am that’. It is a constant flow in our own self, whatever comes up in the awarness belongs to the experience of the watcher and happens in consciousness.

When the seer and the seen are both the same, the joy is described as that of the fourth stage, the Thuriya (transcendental) stage.

Beyond this, the Atman is certain to be reached. By dwelling constantly on the Atma and its reality, the attachment to the world will fall off.
The Sadhana must be without break. The genuine Sadhaka must, with all his resources, redirect the mind from the affairs of the world and the objects that entice the senses, and concentrate on the austere purpose of knowing Brahmam (pure consciousness).

It can be only real if it is constant, because the flow is true and real only on the basis of unlimited and eternal being.
That is the result of the relationship between us. It is getting aware of the relationship between the experiencer and the experience, between Paramatma and Jivatma. 
The relationship is there, but we have to get aware of the experiencer and his relationship to the experience. As it had been said, they have to be attuned properly.
It cannot be attuned to anything negative or the result will be negative. There has to be that much discrimination that no fault is possible. It will end in an harmonious experience and on a level of all possibilities.
The experience changes, but the experiencer remains the same ‘I am that’, it is a constant flow of self-awareness.
We have no time to go into desires and get lost in it, it is just a question of time deciding how long that flow will last and how long we will be here.
There is no decision to take. 
The ‘I am that’ in the air in Baba's darshan was just the confirmation of the state of yoga, of the relationship between the experiencer and the experience, that place where the highest goal of human life can be reached.
There is no question of decision, but of flow.
It is only positive and established by virtue and real values and first of all we have to understand that material values are not real and therefore, it can turn into negativity and instead of being in the flow, we get taken in by it.

Being the watcher we have to get aware of that basic reality. It is not a question of what we have, but of how much time is left …

We can have the whole world and are still miserable, it is the level of realization, buddhy the intellect, when we know it we have everything and if we don’t know it we have nothing, we have to constantly go on in that inner flow. 

The goal is the merger of both: then, all grief ends. He who steadily takes up yoga with faith and who is prodded on by unswerving renunciation (non-attachment) can certainly win victory.

The merger between the two is the relationship between the experiencer and the experience.
It is about that inner relationship and the reason why Baba asked, ‘who is your husband’? Getting aware of the relationship is waking up in pure consciousness and then it gets easy because it is much better than being in the mind.
Instead of being in the mind, we get on that level of pure consciousness identified with the experiencer and detached from the mind.